Bringing in senior care services makes a lot of sense, both for your senior and for you. But even as much as it makes sense, your senior may still find the idea unappealing. It’s going to be important to tread carefully with her.
Make a List of How Senior Care Can Help
It can often be beneficial for both of you if you start out with a list of all the ways that senior care can help your senior. You might want to include a second list of all the ways that senior care can make your life easier, too. Include information about how they can help your senior with mobility, with conservation of energy, and just generally improving the quality of her life.
Is There a Reason to Hurry?
If your elderly family member has been dragging her feet on this topic, you might have been feeling a need to rush the issue. But is there a reason that you do need to hurry? If your senior is experiencing significant health issues or would greatly benefit from having help, especially in terms of her immediate safety, then you might want to keep pushing. On the other hand, if she’s not in danger, it might be better to back up a bit and give her time to think about bringing in senior care providers.
Give Your Senior as Much Choice as Possible
No one likes having all of their choices taken away, especially your senior. She may not be able to make some of the bigger decisions in her life right now, but that doesn’t mean that she shouldn’t be able to make any choices. No matter how little the decision seems to you in the moment, let your elderly family member have that choice. You never know how empowering that can feel for her.
Try to Skip the White Lies, if Possible
Often caregivers find it helpful to use white lies now and again to help to influence a conversation or situation. But this can feel manipulative to your senior, even if her cognitive faculties have been changing. She may instinctively feel as if you’re trying to get her to do something that she doesn’t want to do, and white lies can make her dig in her heels even more.
You may not be able to convince her right away that help is beneficial, but that doesn’t mean you have to stop trying. Hold onto your compassion and remember that change can be really difficult for a lot of people.